So because I’ve been focusing so much on my Hubby, Shane and the blog layout, I’ve been totally falling short with everything else. Namely, the house is a mess, I haven’t blogged since Monday, and I haven’t started a project for class that’s due on Sunday. I feel like every spare moment I have, I’ve been cleaning, but apparently not well enough because Hubby made a comment about it today. Double sigh.
I think that it really just bothers me because I used to be able to do so much more. The month I got pregnant with Shane, I was a super-active sorority sister with two officer positions, I worked a full time (well, 35-40 hours/week) job in addition to going to school full-time (12 credits a semester) and had four other side-jobs as well, not to mention raising and training Bella who was still a pup at the time & maintaining my relationship with Hubby. Yeah, I was exhausted at the end of the day, but I did everything & I did it well.
Now I’m alumni from the sorority, my classes are all online & my only job is to take care of my home & my family. &I feel like if I could accomplish ALL of that in my “previous life”, I should be on top of all the family stuff and have enough time to knit a sweater and memorize the dictionary.
I always knew that it was super hard to be a mom, whether a working mom, WAHM or SAHM- regardless, motherhood is just hard. But I always thought I’d be the exception, at least somewhat, since I was used to having so much going on.
Heather @ Gerber Days says
You are nice to save half the brownie! I would have had the whole thing!! haha
The Professional Family Manager says
Oh, goodness, sweetie–hang in there!
I have done the same thing with my blog. Let's see…in the year since I started it, I've changed my layout and colors seven times. I'm finally happy with my current layout and colors, but I'm still not finished with my "resources" page or my "contents" page. Someday, right?
And, yes, there have been days when I haven't done a single thing on the house because I was thinking of blog or other writing ideas. Talk about mother guilt….
I still haven't figured out how motherhood works. In some ways I had my act together much better when I worked full-time. Even working from home, so many days I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels and nothing is getting accomplished.
We are our own worst critics. My husband has done the same thing…he's seen something not done and griped that it only takes a few minutes to do it and I'm home all day so why didn't I do it? It wasn't until I ended up in the hospital ten weeks that I had my third child that my husband got a "clue," and that was because we have no extended family, he had used up all his vacation time when the baby was born, and he had to handling EVERYTHING all by himself. He's much more appreciative now…but I still see things that don't get done and think, what must he think of me? It's not him saying it–it's me.
Go ahead and vent away! We're all here for you! It sounds like you are doing a fantastic job.
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Brandi says
You will get it to where you want it to be with the blog. I change my look all the time. It's your blog, you can play with it all you want! As for the house work…girl you should see my house right now! LOL But I'd rather be blogging.
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TamsJewelry says
Ironic I posted a similar post this week.Yesterday I think.I had a momentary feeling,that lasted more than a moment LOL OVERWHELMED We will get through this together! Happy Friday Follow.
bizzimommiofboyz says
If you figure out that balance thing, please share!
I am trying to balance home, school, part-time work, blogging…. its a lot!!!!
Wish you well, and don't take hubby's remarks about cleaning/laundry personally, I guarantee you're doing a great job!
Let's see how much he would get done with a baby to tend to!
All the best!
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The Step In Mom. . . says
If you figure out a way to manage the laundry, let me know! I feel like all I ever do is wash laundry or put it away, and I still get never ending complaints that someone doesn't have socks or something. Hubby started making my SS unload the dishwasher, which may not sound like much, but it is such a big help.
My Mercurial Nature says
Next time eat the whole brownie and remind yourself: Perfection isn't necessary, but rewarding yourself is!
BlackEyedDog says
You got SO MUCH to do…..and you're doing very well in my opinion. Don't put such a pressure on you.
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Midday Escapades says
Balance can be very elusive sometimes huh? Just trying not to do too much at once is my best advice and letting the other ones slide.
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Cheryl says
I'm not a mom, but I still struggle with the home/life balance (which makes me wonder how much harder it will be if I do one day have a kid). I've had to learn to cut myself some slack and lower my expectations of myself. It's impossible to do everything and even more impossible to do it perfectly. Also, don't let your blog become a feeling of work or obligation. Your readers will be here whenever you post, whether it's everyday or once a month. Try not to be so hard on yourself. 🙂